If one of the spokes in your wheel of life is weak or missing, the ride is much more difficult. It takes a conscious effort to devote equal time to each of the spokes. If you are unable to devote equal time, your life gets out of balance, which can result in confusion and chaos. Consider the first three primary areas that influence your wheel of life:
Financial and career
In most cases, you have little control over the hours you spend working and commuting. Try to plan your activities with your own wheel of life in mind. Focus on the areas of your life where you do have some control and flexibility. Don't let your job overshadow your time with your spouse and children. Don't allow your career to rob you of your emotional and physical health. Ask yourself the following questions:
Does your job give you a sense of purpose?
Do you feel that you are accomplishing something?
Do you feel that your life has an impact?
Does your job give you a sense of belonging?
Does your job give you the opportunity to be recognized and appreciated?
Does your job maximize your potential?
Do you earn less than you could somewhere else, but your current job offers you a greater quality of life?
Personal
How do you know what you really want out of life? Most people are so busy that they don't take time to think about how they want to spend the rest of their life. Consider these ideas for a happier, healthier mental attitude:
Be flexible.
Tolerate frustration and uncertainty.
Overcome your past, try not to be overwhelmed by the present and don't fear the future.
Be open-minded and non-judgmental.
Be willing to learn from others.
Challenge traditional ways of doing things.
Make decisions without being overly influenced by others.
Be sensitive, empathetic, and aware of other people's thoughts, feelings and needs.
Social
The social part of the wheel of life has to do with your social conscience. What are you willing to give back to society and expect nothing in return? Are you associated with a cause or a group? Are you involved with your church, synagogue or temple? Do you support a political or human rights agenda? Have you taken time out of your busy schedule to help someone less fortunate than you? It's easy to feel sorry for yourself in today's crazy world. There is never enough time and always too much to do. One way to take your mind of off yourself is to find someone who is less fortunate than you are and help that person. If you don't feel grateful for what you have, find someone who has less you'll be cured, right away.
Jane Boucher is an author and professional speaker with offices in Reno. Reach her at 853-0226 or jane@janeboucher.com.
